Just because you’re right to be angry it doesn’t mean anger is right for you.
Righteous Indignation is a double-edged sword in our lives. It comes wrapped in such just and fair purposes. Who doesn’t want to stand up for truth, justice and fairness in a world that seems to demonstrating less and less of just those qualities?
Yet the anger of righteousness is downright dangerous to our own physical, emotional, mental and spiritual health.
I was the Queen of Righteous Indignation. I believe now that those of us who have felt powerlessness in our lives have a stronger tendency toward getting righteous. I know I do, rather I did.
My righteous indignation reared its powerful head all the time. When I felt powerless as others were manipulating or taking advantage of me or when I saw the same thing happening to others. I’d get so angry - I’d stew and stew, tell everyone I could find about the unfairness of whatever or whoever…
Then, I learned a an important lesson about righteous indignation.
Try on your Righteousness
Close your eyes and imagine that someone is abusing, taking advantage of or lying about you. What do you feel? Maybe you’re frothing at the mouth, raging and ranting, calling names, telling all your friends and basically – you’re pissed. And you have every right to be! Can you feel your blood boiling?
Now – stop and pay attention to your energy – the vibration you’re living that is manifesting in your life. Sense your emotions. Check in with your body. Can you find any positive energy or emotion? Does your body feel light and healthy or is there a fist in the pit of your stomach?
Now – ask yourself…
- Do you believe that we create our lives based on our emotional focus and vibration? <YES!>
- What emotion are you feeling when you’re righteous? <Negative…>
- What are you creating in your life when you’re righteous? <Oops, that would be Negative energy>
- How can your righteous indignation create a positive result in your life? <Uh oh>
Can you guess the lesson?
We may be absolutely right about the unfairness of whatever has us righteous. But - just because you’re right doesn’t mean it’s healthy to get righteous. Just because you’re right doesn’t mean you’re creating a positive result in your life. Anything but!
My biggest lesson…
The deeper truth is that anger is often a signal that we aren’t taking care of ourselves. Maybe we’re hanging out with the wrong people to be with the “popular” crowd. Maybe we’re not drawing our boundaries, or valuing who and what we are enough to turn around and walk away from those who are abusing or wronging us.
I learned that instead of getting righteous at the world – it was time for me to get right with myself.
What about you? Do you get righteous? How do you pivot from the negative to the positive? How do you handle those situations that trigger your anger?