Is there a pill for this thing called trauma? ~ Susan Kay Wyatt
My dear friend Susan Kay Wyatt posted a great video in her Piano Chat last week, entitled “Got Trauma, Get Over It!” I had to giggle along with her light, yet oh so poignant thoughts!
Susan struck a special chord with me. Probably because I cannot count the number of friends, associates and supposedly “caring” people who have said the same to me. “Just get over it!” As if that’s not exactly what I’m working to do. Sigh.
Some folks aren’t that direct. Instead, they make flippant remarks or crack jokes, making light of my life’s journey in what I can only assume is an attempt to avoid having to feel some pain in their own selves.
We’ve All Got IT
Our programming to avoid anything uncomfortable is strong - especially in today’s emotionally numbing world. I continue to be amazed at how soulless people can be when they are protected by an avatar or email. But that’s another post….
The reality is that Everybody has some form of trauma. When we truly understand trauma and IT’s outward symptoms - we can see IT’s ugly face everywhere in our world, from gun-toting kids to overstressed executives to single Moms. Our very existence is creating trauma in the majority of us.
What’s really interesting is the knowing that we are all programmed to create trauma in ourselves. Bet you never heard that one before.
Here’s a simple example. We’re taught to never ever let them see us flinch. From sayings like “Keep a stiff upper lip” to “Boys don’t cry” to “Push through the pain” - we program ourselves to go through life in traumatic, false ways. Every time we push through instead of feeling and acknowledging - we create a tiny bit of trauma response. Over time, all of those tiny bits can, and do, add up.
The results range from avoidance to denial to living a false life and hiding our truth.
- How many people do you know who have to make a joke, or make some light comment, in the face of a tough conversation? Avoidance at its finest.
- How many people do you know who hunker down and act as though everything is fine - even if their world is falling apart. Denial simply internalizes the trauma response.
- How many simply don’t share their true feelings and fears because they can’t stand the thought of the comments, looks, pity and more from those who would claim to be totally healthy? That’s living a lie. Say hello to trauma.
We All Need to Get Over IT
In my opinion, “IT” isn’t the trauma.
What we need to get over is running from ourselves and our soul’s truth. We need to Get Over living in our brains and society’s programming. We need to Get Over running and rationalizing.
I think we need to learn to settle in and listen to our spirit’s guidance.
Would your soul be flippant about someone’s painful journey? Would your soul choose to live in avoidance of harsh realities instead of settling in to authenticity? I doubt it…
Living in Gratitude for IT
I’ve spent the last five years of my life focusing on Getting Over IT. I’ve actually spent most of my life Getting Over IT - I just didn’t know IT ‘til five years ago. I wouldn’t change a thing about my journey. That surprises a lot of people - but it’s true.
My journey of Getting Over IT helped me to find my true, soulful self. A self with compassion, empathy, wisdom and the courage to share my story to help others find their way to thrive.
Nearly every day I hear from someone new who wants to Get Over IT, someone whom I’ve touched with my story and learning, given strength, hope, a safe place to share or the chance to know they are not alone in their life’s journey.
That’s my reason for writing this blog, for sharing my less than happy truth.
If that means people think I need to Get Over IT and move on, learn to take my life less seriously and distract myself to put on my happy face - so be it. Everybody has their right to choose how they live their lives - in authenticity, or not.
My true prayer for all of those folks is that they find their path to Get Over IT, too!